Something blue and something new


When people are going to marry each other they usually have a great party and they call this party wedding. It is like a ceremony or ritual for people who want to make promises about they will stay together till the end of life. Actually, till the end of life is a rather huge period of time and people are afraid of it and people have doubts about it and that is why, I guess, they need the whole custom stuff. They need those accessories in order to make sure they can make it, in order to make sure they really can stay together for ages. They need something blue and something new and something borrowed in order to make their marriage work. They really need the whole stuff and in case they have nothing blue or borrowed they get panic and it is like a disaster for them. And people also say there is no way for a fiancé to see his feature wife dressed wedding dress before the wedding, it is also a bad sign for people and it is a reason for their marriage to fail. Though, those superstitions will never make your marriage work in case there is no love between people.

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Once and forever


Marriage is a union of two people who are in love with each other. It is a union of those people who have made their decision and have made their choice. They want to spend lives together and they want to be a support and a partner and a lover and heart and soul for each other. That is why people marry, because they know they need no way back. The stamp in the passport changes nothing except it provides people with feelings that relationships are really serious now. See, you can’t leave just like that in case you are married. And so, when people get married it is not like they need those stamps to keep each other, but they accept those stamps to prove that they are sure and they need no emergency exit of these relationships. They do it in order to prove they are team and they are together and in case this hips go down they will go down with this ship and they won’t be surrenders. That is why people marry and if there is a marriage in your life it has to be the first and the only. That is how it has to be so, think twice before you promise one to stay by his or her side no matter what happens.

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The fake freedom


Some people say they never want to marry and they are okay with living together. They call it the de facto union. Well, actually that is how government calls it. Though, the name is of no importance but the nature is. The de facto union is like the same marriage with civil one though you have no stamp in your passport and so on. People say it helps them feel free and it is the best form for marriage. But, indeed people fool themselves with this idea. There is no freedom for you in case there is a person next to you who is your wife or husband. Sure, it is not the civil wife or husband but still there he or she is living with you, next to you 24 hours a day. He or she is there every morning and every evening and every second and every day and though you have promised this person nothing he or she still demands you to do things. You know those marriage things. You still have t care about not breaking the unspoken rules of de facto union and so on. In other words the de facto union is the same trouble with civil marriage though provided with illusion of freedom.

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When you promise


Never give promises just like that and never forget about promises you give. Never tell a person you will stay next to him or her till the end of life if you are not going to or if you have at least a tiniest doubt about it. Never make promises you are not going to follow or you are too weak to follow. Marriage is something that supposes to last forever and f you promise to be together than you have to do that. Sure, in case you feel you can’t go on like that anymore it is better for you to walk away but with that walking away you tear one’s heart apart and you heart people. Marriage is like a refusal for everything except love and devotion towards one person till the end of days and you should think twice and trice when going to make such a promise. Marriage takes a lot from people and there is no way for people to marry just for fun, on a purpose of learning something new about such a phenomenon as marriage. I guess there is nothing special in it, at least there is nothing that worth trying for the cost of one’s heart.

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Marriage Myths


A recent study showed that divorce rate in US and many other developed countries are rising and this will be the trend for the next couple of years.  Well, I was not surprised to read this study because there are so many wrong notions about the marriage. Here are some of the myths and the actual facts of marriage.

It is often thought that people cannot stay in a single marriage for lifetime as compared to before as we live longer now. If you look at the facts, it is a complete contrary. Studies show that this not true as we now get married at a later age than our elders did. So, practically the number of years in the marriage pretty much remains the same. In fact a study showed that half of all divorces take place by the seventh year of a marriage which is hardly a lifetime.

People who live together before marriage and then get married are believed to have long lasting marriage than the ones who don’t. Studies have shown the contrary of this. People who are in a live in relationship before marriage are more skittish to commitment and run away from it when the problem comes.

 Having children brings people closer and hence contribute to a successful marriage.  However studies have shown that the arrival of the first baby marks the beginning of the rift between the couple and they slowly drift farther apart from each other.

Then there is king of all marriage myths- Men benefit more than Women in a Marriage. This is not true. Medically it is shown that both of them live much healthier, longer satisfying life. Men gain on the health aspect but women become financially stonger.

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Commitment

Marriage is a very serious commitment and in the throw away society that we live in it is easy to determine that a marriage is over. We often do not focus on our marriage but rather our own needs. Creating a strong marriage is an effort that takes work and a constant dedication to trying to resolve issues and try new communication techniques. Turning in one bad marriage for another doesn’t fill the void. When I was young, I heard the theory pronounced that the divorce rate has increased because too many young adults had lacked positive relationship role models. The firs marriage was just for practice.

I held onto this belief for awhile until I realized that commitment is a choice. If a person feels strong enough to commit the rest of their lives once why wouldn’t they be able to stick to that commitment even when it wasn’t easy or simple? People change and grow throughout their lifetime and we don’t always appreciate where that change and growth is leading them. To make a marriage work, we all have to remember that there is a choice involved, and we can choose how we view changes and our response to them. We can either determine that our partner has changed for the worse or we can determine that they are doing what they need to do to take care of them and become more involved. Everything we do in this world we do because we are trying to prevent pain or entice joy, and ending or continuing with a marriage is no exception.

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Benefits of marital agreement

The main advantage of the marriage contract - an opportunity for spouses to establish it as the regime of property will be used for the entire property or for his part: a joint, shared or separate. 
Joint ownership - this is the right of ownership, where all the property goes to the common property of spouses without specifying the share of each, ie «Total box» of the property. This is the regime would apply if the marriage contract will not be determined otherwise. 
Ownership - the proportion of couples are determined initially. For the disposition (sale, gift, exchange, testament) property in ownership requires the consent of the second spouse. That is, if one spouse is the owner of the property the other spouse. In addition, spouses can set the mode and split ownership of all or certain types of property. Ease of a marriage contract is that the law allows distributing it as an act of the property already acquired by the time the contract (including those acquired before marriage) and the property to be acquired in the future. 
Rights and responsibilities in the marriage contract may be not being stopped or, depending on whether or not the onset of certain conditions - for example, childbirth, adultery, etc. Another advantage of the marriage contract is the ability to protect the interests of the last couple of penalties, refer to their debts. For example, if a spouse has engaged in business and «goes away», then the Western creditors would impose a penalty on the property not just a spouse, but the second half, that is marriage contract, it is desirable to determine that all the expensive property (real estate, securities, etc.) is in separate ownership and has a wife. In this case, to claim for interest in the property would be difficult if not impossible. 

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